I used to have a friend in secondary school that was all I could ask for in a man. Well, as at that time. Oh, what did I know? I was still a child. He was handsome, charming, tall, dark, buff and funny. I mean, what could possibly be missing? Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, his name was Dami.
Dami was the new boy at school which was actually weird because he joined us in SS2, a class which never admitted students then. Well, he was admitted and I didn’t know that the next two years with him were going to be the most interesting in my life then.
I was always a ‘fraidy cat’, I never liked getting into trouble… even now, I still don’t. They used to flog us then, especially when the class was noisy; and trust me, my class was noisiest. So any time we were flogged like that, I was always crying. So, Dami used that opportunity to start talking to me. I’m even smiling as I’m writing this. He walked up to me once and asked why I was crying, and that was where we got talking.
So, Dami became my ‘cry-buddy’. He always knew when to come; he always knew what to say to make me burst into laughter even in the midst of my tears. Soon enough, we got talking at times other than when I was crying. He was in science class and I was in art class but he used to come around so often as possible. He was always there; and I tried my best being there for him too.
We got talking on WhatsApp and well, you know how these things go, we ended up liking each other. (He never asked me out though. Secondary school love is never that serious in my secondary school… he-he). Everything went rosy between us, we rarely fought, we talked for long hours of the day and I thought I was in love already.
Sooner than I thought, I started spending and desiring more time with him. I spent more time with him than with my friends. If I was with my friends and he happened to be in the same place, I would ditch my friends and go meet him. (I’m sorry guys!). My relationship with my friends began to nosedive, but I didn’t care, Dami and I would be forever. (Or so I thought!).
Well, a few weeks to our graduation, Dami told me he was going to London and it was going to be the beginning of a new life for him and because of that, he didn’t want anything from his past to get in his way…including me. (Ouch!)
It was around that time in my life that I realized that I had focused so much on him and it had been like I was secluded in a world apart from reality. I realized that I had treated my friends badly and that I had forgotten about every other thing that was not “Dami-fied”. This “break-up” of course was an eye-opener for me; I was sad but I knew I could live with it. I had to reconnect with my friends, I had to start all over again. I went out more often, I had fun for myself, I dressed to look good for myself, let’s just say, I began to see who I really was. I learned a lesson from then on though, I let love get the best of me… in fact, all of me. But I have promised myself to pay attention to everything and everyone around even when next I fall in love.
*wink wink*
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