Quotes by Seweje Pelumi V

“Solve the problem to create the reality.”

Quotes by Seweje Pelumi IV

“Dancing is the best way of living in your imaginations.”

 

Quotes by Seweje Pelumi III

“Life: Come in pain, dwell in pain, go in pain.”

 

Quotes by Seweje Pelumi II

“The best ways to solve a problem: Ask, obtain and apply.”

 

Quotes by Seweje Pelumi I

“There is always an opportunity in every discomfort.”

 

Unexpected things in Life

Life as it is now is not what I thought it would be when I was younger. Back then, I assumed there’d be flying cars and robots in 2013&2014 then the other new years will be more advanced. I thought I was going into the future. I then realized I was in for something bitter at the age of fourteen (14). The things that happened were so discouraging to move on with life. The ones in charge of you don’t even have time for you. I always kept things to myself which was not good, but that was the only way to avoid problems. Many times, I sit and think if I’m living the life of another person, but, as I got older, I got wiser. I started to understand and see things in another way. I decided to let go of the things that happened back then and face the present and think of the future which I am now in.
Life isn’t ‘a bed full of roses’. We have to be ready for anything. Any situation we are in doesn’t last forever. As we know it, our future depends on the choices we make. And no one has the right to make a choice for you except “YOURSELF”.

Manjo Marvella Ijeoma

Quote

By Louise Hay

ASSUMED POSITIONING OF MALE AND FEMALE

When we hear the word feminist in today’s society, we immediately think of a woman challenging manhood. Many have misplace meaning and misinterpreted the whole concept of feminism. There is no way one would make mention of the fact that they are feminist without receiving that despising look from those around them. I remember a 13-year-old girl who told her mum that she (the girl) was a feminist and her mum exclaimed “God forbid!”  as though the innocent child had placed a curse on herself. What then is wrong with the word “feminist”? It happens to have been negatively stereotyped by society

A feminist is simply a person who stands for equality between both genders (male and female). Why is it an abomination for a woman to marry as a non-virgin yet no one utters a word when it comes to the men? By the way, that would be a great paradox because the men are expected to marry virgins whereas they go about “misbehaving”. I know of a family were the female children live like complete prisoners. The only places they visit are the church, school and they are back home yet the male children can freely go out to visit their friends and even attend birthday parties. The only reason their parents gave for not granting their female children the same privilege was that “they are women and have to learn how to always be in doors for the world of adventure is meant for the men”. Permit me to say that was the weirdest response I had ever heard.

Gender inequality has gone further than we can possibly imagine. Haven’t you experienced a situation whereby a woman was despised and even humiliated simply because of the fact that she didn’t bear a male child (mind you this is after having four able girls). Had God not created Eve would procreation be possible? No, yet the birth of a girl child is so much despised in the absence of a boy in the family. Some traditions even go as far as measuring the strength of a man with the number of male children he has got. I had a neighbor who was thrown out of her matrimonial home (simply because she bore 3 girls) by her unsatisfied mother-in-law who was in need of a grandson to continue with her late husband’s linage.

To continue, this discrimination has even been forwarded to food (ordinary food). In some regions in Cameroon, the women are not allowed to eat chicken gizzard and would be a taboo if they dared. So, it is common to find the women keep the chicken gizzard aside after cooking for the man of the house or her first son in the absence of the father under the umbrella of him being “a man”. A man you say? He didn’t even participate in the cooking yet the poor girls who had been perfumed with smoke from the burning wood were not to have a taste of the fruit of their own labour. The common argument is that the man paid for the woman’s bride price. What happened then to the Indian women who paid the groom price yet you still find some women treated as slaves (in the case were she doesn’t bear a male child) in that same society.

However, we miss it when we mention only the female gender when talking about feminism. Feminism as earlier stated is advocating equality among both genders. Is it common to find parents tell their sons not to shed tears because he is ‘a man.’ Pain is meant to be expressed, why make a child grow up in pretense. Society has made ladies to have a ‘right’ to spend while the guys settle the bills. If a lady should go out on a date with a guy and she take care of the bills it is interpreted that the guy in question is incompetent. This attitude also moves to matrimonial homes were the women pocket their money and expect their every single need to be met by their husbands. Society would often say “you can’t provide for your family then how do you call yourself a man?” A real woman is a helper not a burden to her husband.

Again, society has made it an abomination for a woman to earn more than her husband. This attitude has caused many men to lose their sense of purpose in society because they have been transformed to an epitome of failure when they find themselves in such a situation.  It is obvious the society is after power, authority and position, and as such society has painted a woman’s success to be a threat to a man. This behaviour explains why some men are so frustrated when they lose their jobs for they automatically become a disgrace and a bunch of ill luck.

Many boys are deprived of living for themselves, rather they have to live so as to continue with their father’s legacy so they end up living the lives of another. Their dreams, ambition and purpose end up buried under a life of pretense.

Society permits women minimize their knowledge of everything but a man has to know, I mean it is an obligatory. For instance, if he didn’t know how to operate a phone properly then next statement would be, “and you call yourself a man”

This issue might not look as serious as it is supposed to be but if appropriate care is not taken, our future would never be a better one because old vices destroy the opportunity for change. Enough to this old mentality, enough to our old culture, and enough to stereotypes we have created for ourselves. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie would say “culture does not make people, people make culture, so if it is in fact true, that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we must make it our culture.” Let’s build a feminist society, a society that stands for gender equality.

Lenga Daisy

A QUOTE TO SAVE YOUR LIFE

Sometimes you may feel like you aren’t understood, you may feel sad, frustrated, lonely, etc., I’m here to tell you, “don’t sweat it,” you can get through this easily, even laugh about it.

I WOULD LIKE TO INTRODUCE QUOTES
There is this witty construction of words, thou just words, they can affect lives positively, uplift despairing souls, rescuing the sad, not to be overly dramatic, but quotes are fantastic.
It is true when they say there is nothing you experience that hasn’t been experienced before. It’s just that some people let their experiences overcome them, while some people overcome them, learn from them and get stronger from their experiences. It is from this brave soul that quotes materialize.
Here are some quotes to help you out in different situations.

Anne Frank
‘The final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands’

Aristotle
‘No great mind has ever existed without a touch
Of madness.’

Stephen King
‘We make up horrors to help us cope with the real ones.
It’s better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you’re not.’

Unknown
‘I’m not crazy; my reality is just different than yours.
Be your kind of beautiful’

Norman Cousins
‘Death is not the most significant loss of life. The most significant loss is what lies inside us while we live.
‘Normal is an illusion, what is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.’

Friedrich Schiller
NOW FOR SOME FUN QUOTES, these are the types of quotes that you can easily relate to, as they address everyday emotions. They are witty funny, and just enough to get you through a challenging emotion, or provide comic relief for some time.
• I love everybody, some I love to be around, some I love to avoid, and others I would love to punch in the face.
• I hate you; then I love you. It’s like I want to throw you off a cliff. Then rush to the bottom to catch you.
• When killing them with kindness doesn’t work, try a baseball bat, results may vary.
• Darling, I’m a lady, a Dark, twisted one, but still a lady.
• My career plans were much more exciting when I was 5.
• I may look calm, but in my head, I’ve killed you about five times.
• I am who I am. your approval is not needed
• I sleep less; I’m tired, I sleep more, I’m tired, life is impossible.
• People should seriously stop normally expected from me, we all know by now that it’s not going to happen.

There are many more like these, all you have to do when you are feeling down is the search for them on the internet, self-help books, you can even make up some if you like, who knows, there may be someone out there who would appreciate and even connect with your quotes

                                                                                                    Abiola-Awe Toluwanimos

THE CHOICE

The act of making a decision is inevitable in life’s journey. We make choices every day of our lives. Whether consciously or unconsciously, it’s a thing everyone does and will continue to do until the end of time. Options are a part of us, and without it, we would not be able to get anything done.
In life, there are good choices, and there are bad choices. Sometimes, it’s easier to go with the wrong choice because it may present itself in an alluring way or it could even be because of pressure from friends. The thing with a wrong decision is that it can leave a person feeling empty and sad, maybe not immediately but in the long run.
Good choices, on the other hand, are not so easy to make because they might seem hard or uncomfortable. It even becomes more difficult because we live in a world where it’s easier to make wrong choices than o good one. But the thing with making a right decision is that while it may seem hard at first, it gradually becomes comfortable as we begin to feel peace and comfort.
It’s not easy doing the right thing or making the right choice, but in the long run, we would feel good and happy with choosing the right option.

EDEOGHON OSARIEME